Jennifer had been spending almost every idle minute on her laptop computer near the patio. She was researching, reading, questioning, and signing up & posting on a myriad of forums and message boards to learn as much as she could. It really had almost become an obsession since I finally gave in and said “ok” – heck it was even a daily topic before that!
We sent off a deposit and anxiously awaited the day, which happened to be our first anniversary.
Then it finally came – June 19, 2005. We hopped in the car and drove for hours, north through the upper part of Maryland, then west on the Pennsylvania Turnpike.

Finally we reach a small town and turned on to a road where the first house was a lovely log cabin-like structure. We came up the laneway and could barely contain our enthusiasm!
“Are you sure?” I asked Jennifer one more time.
“Of course!” she replied.
We had stopped at the bank before leaving to get the rest of the money, and a lady greeted us as we walked up to the front of the house. We handed her the money, “Great I’ll be right back,” she said.
She returned moments later.
Then there he was

We could hardly contain ourselves as we let him run around outside there, with the friends he no doubt had come to love during his first 8 weeks of life. Jennifer had spotted him online with this brothers and sisters, and we picked him out from this picture when the owner said he was the most plump & rowdy of the litter!

“Sebastian” was the name we had come up with. We wanted something that sounded cute and fun, but that we could shorten to something equally loving – “Bash” became more the rule than the exception.
Little did we know that as we shared our lives with him over the next 3 years he would have a multitude of names – Basha, Boosh, Booshness, Boosha – how we ever came to replace the ‘a’ with a ‘oo’ we haven’t the faintest idea.
We now were responsible for another life, and had taken the first step to really feeling like part of our own little Family instead of just Jennifer and I always out on adventures on weekends, seeing the sights, and going out on the town whenever we felt like it. Now we had responsibility. And we loved every minute of it.
His domain for the first few weeks in Maryland become our kitchen. We bought baby gates to keep him contained while we taught him how to let us know when he needed to go out, and where he needed to go.

We quickly found out that having a puppy was a ton of work, not just in caring, but in keeping track of! Bash never ceased to amaze us with the places he knew how to get to, or get under!

Everything he did became adorable to us – we had truly fallen in love with our new little life. From sleeping

to begging

to even just plain looking at us

he was the cutest dog we’d ever seen.
It soon became apparent that Sebastian loved the outdoors. He loved car rides, playing in the grass, and, as we came to visit many times, the water.

Probably the single-most fun place we went was Quiet Waters Dog Park near the Chesapeake bay where Sebastian could run and play in a fenced-in area with other small dogs, or we could take him to the water and he could show all the Labs and other Retrievers that small dogs can swim too!
We tried to take him anywhere we could, involve him in as much as possible, and find things that were even just for him. Sebastian was a part of our first Christmas card when we went to Quiet Waters to get our pictures taken by a professional. She loved working with us and him! He was just as photogenic as could be!

The photographer managed to capture an image of Basha that not only captures his essence perfectly in our eyes, but also remains a favorite to this day

Well, as they say, behind every good man is a good woman, and Bash found this out on his first Halloween. Jennifer just couldn’t resist a costume and the opportunity to parade around with other dogs in disguises at the Bark ‘n’ Bash held at Quiet Waters.
Sebastian never had to endure an airplane ride to come with us for Christmas as we moved from DC in November of 2006, to Madison, WI. Before he moved, though, I was away for a week at my new job in Madison – Jennifer and I spoke daily, and she informed me that he seemed “depressed” that I was gone and hadn’t yet come back. He just wasn’t the same, he would lay in the corner seemingly waiting to hear the garage door open. It appeared we had become as much a part of his life as he had of ours. I returned for the big move and was showered endlessly with kisses and tackles as I entered our townhouse apartment in Rockville, Maryland.
Being the great companion that he is, he had no problem with the 21 hour drive. He was our excuse to stop and rest, so he could stretch his legs, eat, and take care of business. He had clearly become the sun that our world revolved around, and we wouldn’t have had it any other way.
Our little family arrived in Madison just in time for Winter, and Sebastian’s first snow. Wouldn’t you know our little furball of joy could barely stand himself when he saw it and first stepped paw into it. Neither Jennifer nor myself are really winter-weather people, but of course we’d take him out for a run around – and bring the camera!

Madison was also where Boosh began the habit of sleeping in a decorative dish we’d received as a gift

How he ever found this comfortable is really beyond us, but of course we found it absolutely adorable.
To say that Sebastian was with us during the good and bad times of our first 3 years of marriage really is a statement that highlights just how much he meant to us. Jennifer never got a full time job while we lived in Wisconsin, and not much else was too different in the way of our expenses. But we did anything we could to keep Sebastian happy and healthy and at the center of our lives. Jennifer once again researched the area and found a large off-leash dog park near where we lived that we could take him to. Over 70 acres of trails, hills, dirt, mud, grass, trees, and open area for him to frolic and meet new friends. It became a weekly routine for us to go there on a walk not only for him, but also for ourselves. Our relationship grew stronger at these moments as we connected with nature, our beloved pet, and each other. We would sit and talk while he played, never straying too far from our site. Just another statement of Sebastian’s love for us and ours for him.
Sebastian made the 5-hour journey with us from Madison to home that Christmas season, and many of our friends and family met our precious little “furbaby” for the first time.

Madison was a short stop on our way to a more permanent living situation, but Sebastian enjoyed his time there probably more than we did. From lounging on the patio chairs, chilling in the baby pool we just had to buy for him since we left the coast, to meeting his cousin Sasha (Becky’s new puppy) and going slip-sliding on the Mississippi when we made the trips back to Iowa.

In July of 2006, we set sail for the great Twin Cities of Minnesota, and our ultra-modern “Flat” at Cloud 9. I have a hunch this was Sebastian’s least-favorite resting spot as the entire floor in the unit was concrete. He could never get any traction on the floor when he wanted to run around. He would always jump from rug to towel to furniture so he would have the opportunity to turn around without sliding completely out of control. As usual though, he was a blast while we lived there.
It was at Cloud 9 that Jennifer and I made the decision to drastically change our lives, and begin trying to have our first child. Again, to say that Sebastian was with us during the best and worst times of our lives is an understatement. We tried for the better part of a year to get pregnant, in the process losing two precious lives. Sebastian was there through it all, to share with us the joy of the || on the pregnancy test, and to be there for hugs, kisses, and cuddles when we came home from the hospital or doctor’s office. He never wavered in his unconditional love for us, no matter what the joy or concern had been.
We were only at Cloud 9 for a year, and then two of the biggest changes in our lives happened nearly back-to-back. We came across a town home not far from there that we loved, and were able to purchase, and shortly before that, Jennifer found out she was pregnant again.
Excited and nervous all at the same time, we moved to Eden Prairie and did everything we could to make sure this baby got to see the world. Appointment after appointment, prescription after prescription, month after month, we hoped and prayed for our little bundle of joy. And then on the snowy morning of March 31, 2008, he arrived. Corbin Daniel. And big brother Sebastian was just as eager as ever to see what had kept Mommy and Daddy away for those few nights.

At first, Sebastian was very confused and concerned when we arrived home with something moving under the cover of the car seat. It took a few days for him to realize that this new “thing” was staying and that he needed to be gentle around him. But they soon became friends.

However as often happens when a baby enters the lives of a family, everything changes. For our beloved Booshness this was unfortunately no exception. He was not, and could not, be the center of our attention any more. We played with him when we could and took him with us on family trips to Iowa but for the most part Corbin now occupied every waking moment of our lives.
Then this December 2008, Jennifer and I made the hardest decision we have ever had to make. We had talked about it in passing. It just wasn’t fair to Sebastian any more. He hadn’t been to a dog park in over a year, and, no fault of his, our patience for accidents and behavioral issues with the baby had begun wearing thin. The couple of nights prior for no obvious reason he had had accidents over night on the carpet, an extreme rarity for our well-behaved pup. It was clear that he was no longer enjoying the life he was leading with us.
And then a blessing. Jennifer mentioned to a co-worker one day that we were considering giving Sebastian away when she responded that they had done the same with their small dog only a year prior because they moved and the dog didn’t handle it well. “Is he good with moving?” she asked. Jennifer nearly laughed out loud. Barb was excited to talk to her husband, Martin about the possibility of really surprising their two children this year for Christmas.
Over the next couple of days Jennifer and Barb talked about Boosh via e-mail and negotiated a “two week trial” for Sebastian – starting on December 10.
As the day drew nearer we started to gather up Sebastian’s things – his many leashes, coats, raincoats, and toys that had come all the way from Maryland and his “Glory Days” as a little puppy in a big big world. We thought about all the time we had shared with our dear friend and faithful companion, and how we wished more than anything that we could keep him with our little family. But the more we thought about how things were, and how things had become, the more clear and correct the choice we were making became.
On December 10, 2008 we took this last picture of our beloved Sebastian with his little brother Corbin:

Followed only too few moments later by a picture of Sebastian with his new family, The Cruz’s: Mercedes, Barb, Jorge, and Martin:

And a final picture of our little family:

The next couple of days & nights were some of the most difficult we’ve ever had. Not having the persistent wagging butt at the top of the stairs when we came home, the jingle of a collar in the middle of the night, or the faithful following around the house was, and continues to be, a very hard adjustment for us. However, Barb & her family have kept us updated with how Sebastian is getting along with them, their house, and their children and everything sounds like it is working out fantastically. He is playing with the children, eating normally, and minding his manners around their home.
For this we are more thankful than I think we ever could be. To give up such a friend was harder, I think, than we could have ever imagined. But to know that he is getting the attention, love, and companionship that he deserves makes the pain much easier to bare.
Sebastian - we learned, we laughed, and we loved for 3 great years. You were with us from your home in Pennsylvania, to our homes in Maryland, Wisconsin, and Minnesota. You stood by us when times were tough and we could barely afford our own groceries, when our hearts were broken with the inability to conceive our own children. And you shared our joy of the birth of our first child and purchase of our first home. You never doubted our love for you, and we yours for us. We wish for you nothing but the happiest life a dog as perfect as you were for us deserves, and we sincerely hope you have found that at your new home.
We will miss you and love you always and forever, little buddy. Rest assured you will not be forgotten, my friend. Take care.
- Brandon (Dad), Jennifer (Mom), and Corbin (little brother)